Dealing With The ‘Third-Party’ In Your Relationship

Finding out that your partner is having an affair can be very difficult to deal with. After all, what you initially thought would be a happy, bump-free relationship may not be so true after all.

Third parties in any relationship cause tension, arguments, or even a falling out. If you don’t want this to happen to you and your partner, take stock of the situation at hand and be proactive about it.


Sometimes, all a third party wants is attention. But if you don’t give your partner what he/she wants, they might get tired of trying to get you to react and just go away. Ignoring the third party is also a more calm and civilized way of handling the situation. This may take a bit of time, however, depending on just how aggressive the intruder is.


Before the situation gets out of hand, talk to your partner. Ask what has brought the two of you to
this situation, and let your partner know that you do not approve of his/her actions. Seriously consider all options, and focus on deciding on whether your relationship is still worth saving or not. If you feel that you wouldn’t be able to handle your emotions properly, ask your partner to end the affair so you wouldn’t have to deal with a confrontation.


Most people who were faced with this problem initially reacted with anger. However, letting your emotions get the best of you will not solve the problem at hand. If
you intend to confront the third party, it would be best to let your feelings settle down first before doing so. If the intruder is someone you know, confronting him/her peacefully and tactfully would be the best possible option you can do to solve the problem.

Olumide Lawrence

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About Olumide Lawrence

OLUMIDE LAWRENCE is a writer, an artiste and a publicist. Started out as a PLAYER, now I am a Relationship COACH. Follow me on twitter @ilummynation and instagram @glowville Facebook: Olumide ilummynation Lawrence. BBM: 2A3B059E, 7E15126B.

One thought on “Dealing With The ‘Third-Party’ In Your Relationship

  1. This third outside party convinced my girlfriend to be his girlfriend and now she has not spoken to me since she left. I received a 12 hour notice that she was moving out. We just bought a small home temporally till I received two years tax returns and then I would have bought her a home of her choice. However, the third party had a home of her liking and location so she chose that after we moved into our home. I had reopen an injury that I received bumping it on a box that was left on the floor at night. We never had an argument before the move and during this time and the pain from my injury we had four short arguments as I hid my injury from her so she wouldn’t worry. I flew to Florida to visit my children and grandchildren and upon my return after ten days we were getting along great. Out of the blue she said she was moving the next morning. Turns out she had been seeing this third party from the time I left for Florida till the day she moved in with him. I have not heard her voice since and she texts me only when she want’s something.


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